When it does not take pain to have gain

We are often taught to believe that life will be painful at times and that there is NO GAIN WITHOUT PAIN. But I would like to challenge you to think that it’s all about the perspective that you choose.

Let’s start with a practical example of why incompatibility is NOT the same thing as rejection.

In life, we may find ourselves in many situations where an opportunity is presented but there is some incompatibility between that opportunity and what we can do at the time. Let’s say that you were offered a job and but you couldn’t start for another 6 months. The potential employer really liked you but the timing issue could not be overcome. You would not then go around and tell your friends and family that you were rejected as a candidate. What’s more likely is that you would explain it as timing incompatibility that you hope leads to more, perhaps later on.

In the job example I just gave we are not viewing this as energy that’s completely halted. It’s true that you’re not working there at this very moment but you might decide to continue to sometimes fantasize about what it would be like to work there. You might start some momentum in your life around creating a new opportunity where you will actually be working there. And you might have even more confidence around the likelihood that your position there could be better than the one you were originally offered. Therefore the energy around this particular thing has actually expanded instead of halted or shrunk.

My horoscope once read that life is “three parts fantasy and one part reality.” I would expand on that phrasing to say that when the fantasy finally meets reality, we most often define this as success.

When it comes to sex, relationships and eating we often view these things as having a hard start and stop timer on them energetically speaking. You may speak on a past relationship that ended as having energy which stopped at exactly the point when you “broke up.” What is probably more true however is that the energy continued for a little while after that. While you were still sorting your thoughts and trying to distance yourself from habits which included that person’s presence.

When we eat food and it makes you feel a certain way you will most likely communicate that it was eaten (therefore gone) after you took the last bite. In reality, that food processed through your system for some time. In addition, that food carried an energetic signature which left an impression on you. That food may have even been the catalyst or inspiration for a food craving that you would indulge in later.

When we are working on making a decision to start dieting, we often criticize the food that we have eaten in the past. We attempt to cut it’s energy off from ours completely. When we try to instruct ourselves on how to feel and attempt to become that which we’ve just commanded, it almost never works. The reason it does not work is because there is already too much momentum built up in some of the relationships that you have in your life to food, sex and even daily habits.

Energy can neither be created nor destroyed; instead, it can only be transformed or transferred from one form to another.

What we can do is learn to view past experience as ATTRACTION. Your past experiences were based on an attraction to a feeling, an idea, a satiation to that which we are craving.

And your wants and desires for change now are also based on ATTRACTION. Attraction to the new, the different, essentially the boomerang of that very energy that you put out into the world coming back to you as transformed and ready.

If you try and stop your attraction to anything in it’s tracks you will inevitably stop the attraction of the other ideas which were meant to come behind it. And in doing so, you will feel the force of LIMITATION. That limitation will be painful. And then you will convince yourself that you need pain to have gain. But all the while, just consider that you may already possess resistance-free gain. You’re just keeping it under lock and key.